10 DIY Wedding Planning Tips You Need To Know
Planning a wedding can be pretty stressful, and in an ideal world, everyone would love to be able to hire a wedding planner, but the fact of it is- sometimes that just isn’t possible. Wedding season is just right around the corner, and I know a lot of you are busy trying to figure out what to do, so I decided to share a few tips and steps to take when planning a wedding!
Intimate or All Out? First thing you need to decide is what kind of wedding you want to have. What would make you and your fiancé’s big day “You”? Would you rather have close family and friends, celebrate with a backyard barbecue, or elope on a cliff side with just you two? Or maybe you would prefer to have an all out party, invite all your friends, extended family, work colleagues, to celebrate the beginning of your life together? There is no right or wrong answer, just think what would be best for you two. This will also help you decide what your budget is for everything, and that is when you can really start.
Pick a Date. What is your wedding vision? Do you want it outdoor, or indoor? This will obviously factor in a lot for what day you pick. If you are planning last minute, it may be smart to pick a Thursday or Friday! You will have a lot more options for vendors to be available.
Book Your Vendors! It is never too early to start booking your vendors. The first two things you need to book are your venue, and your media professionals (photographer, and/or videographer) then comes florist, cake, officiant, dj, caterer, etc. Let me talk a little bit about picking your wedding photographer. In my opinion, it would be a good idea to plan your budget around your wedding photographer, and here is why: Although all these things are important, your cake, your flowers, the food, the dress, the venue, the dj, these will all be gone or put away in storage once the day is over. Your wedding photographer is there to capture all of these things, so that you can look back on them for the rest of your life. You can spend tons and tons of money on all these things and have a $1000 or less budget for your wedding photographer and your wedding is going to look like a $1000 or less wedding. But if you have a higher budget for your photographer, they are going to be able to capture your day in such a way that will really be able to reflect the time and money that has gone into it!
Also make sure that you love your photographer style! Look at their portfolio and see if the way they capture their clients, and their editing style vibes with you. And if possible, see if your personalities work together! I love when potential clients want to set up a phone call or a meeting just to talk about details and packages, and also to see if you are both a good fit for each other!
Wedding Dress. Most people say you need to have your wedding dress picked out at least 8 weeks before, and ideally about 8 months before your wedding day in order to have time for fittings and adjustments that need to be made. My biggest mistake I made with wedding dress shopping is feeling like I needed to make an event of it! No joke, when I first went wedding dress shopping I had about 10 people with me. Yep, you read that right. TEN. WHYYY?! Because I felt obligated. And guess if I picked my dress? Nope. As much as I love each of those people, it was too hard with so many opinions! When I finally picked my dress, I brought my best friend, we were relaxed and I felt like I was able to take my time and pick the dress that I really wanted because I didn’t feel like I had to accommodate so many people!
Invitations and Save the Dates. You don’t want to make the same mistake I did and send out your wedding invitations two weeks before the wedding (face palm). This all depends on how long of an engagement you have! If you are planning a destination wedding you will want to send Save The Dates anywhere from 8 to 12 months before to give your guests plenty of time to plan. For local weddings I suggest to send your save the dates 4 months in advance, and your formal invitations 8 weeks in advance.
Book Your Honeymoon! Ahhh the honeymoon. The best part honestly! After all the craziness and months of hectic planning, you get to go relax with your new husband/wife. Make sure to plan enough time to just relax. The best vacations are ones that you don’t have a tight schedule to stick to and can just lounge around for an entire day if you want to! Make sure to read up on some travel blogs and articles about where you are wanting to go for some extra tips!
Get Rewarded! This is something I wish someone would have told me when I was planning my wedding. I highly suggest (if you don’t have one already) getting a rewards credit card. There are some cards that you can redeem your points for travel, shopping, or even just cash! If you think about it, you are already going to be spending thousands of dollars, might as well get something extra back! Now I am not saying to go into debt over your wedding. I am just saying that it would be smart to put the charges on your rewards credit card and then use the money you already have set aside to pay it right off! Shop around for some cards and see what ones offer what sparks your interest!
Don’t Be Afraid To Break Tradition. Brides thinking about having a line, I’m talking to you haha! This is another thing I wish I could change about my own wedding. There were so many things I did because I felt like that was just the rules of weddings. Well news flash, it’s 2019 and the only rule with weddings is there are no rules! If you want to cut into a pizza instead of a cake (yes I have seen this), then have a pizza! If you want to serve tacos and ice cream because they are your favorite foods, WHAT IS STOPPING YOU?! Isn’t this day about YOU TWO?! So why would you do something that you don’t really want to do? If you take away one thing from this post, I hope it is this section because I am SO PASSIONATE ABOUT IT!
Make Time. Make time for you and your fiancé to enjoy this time together! Both during planning, and the wedding day! It is such an exciting time! Call each other to talk about ideas throughout the day as you think of them, go shopping together! And guys, trust me, it will mean the world to your bride if you take interest in the details of the wedding! #browniepoints And as for the day of, it all goes by so so fast! One of my favorite things about our day was that we had a few hours in between the ceremony and reception to just be together. So whatever this looks like for you, I suggest you make it happen because it was such a special time.
Don’t Stress! This is a happy time! One of the happiest times of your life! The last thing you would want is to become bridezilla, stressing out over every little thing, and not even being able to enjoy yourself. Bubble baths and ice cream are the cure all for this problem if you find yourself a little too stressed out. (;